Swinging Advice for Curious Ladies

How many ladies came up with the idea, "Honey let's go to the swingers club!!!"Not too many. Even if she wants to do it, most of the time she will make him somehow to say it. But usually the basic swinging idea comes from the man and later on she keeps the couple involved. 

Why is this? Females’ are more closed and shyer than men. Sex is more taboo for them than for men. Also usually females have less sex partners than man. Unfortunately not many men are good in the lovemaking department. Especially if we talking about couples with several years of marriage behind them and  sex has become routine. So somehow the swinging idea came up. Usually at first he almost have to force her into the swingers club. After that sooner or later she will meet with a experienced male who will know how to make her happy and he will make her happy. So next time when the let's go to the swing club subject comes up, in her mind already is there the beauty of sex, and she is already horny. And this is okay. If this happened with you, don't worry, just because of this, you are not a bed person. The devil won't take you. He is busy with really bad people...  

Swinging Tips For Women 

If something is that can be done by one man, might be done by two. And you do not have to go anywhere to find the second man and you do not have to give any explanation for anyone. Remember, the basic idea wasn't yours. You just agree with your honey. Sometimes husbands get a little mixed up as they see their wife have a lot of fun with other men. Usually men come into swinging with visions of lots of sex, so they have to learn how to deal with this feeling. Most of the men forget the fact they can’t compete with women. Men can only cum a limited number of times at one night and then they have to rest. Whereas, women can be multi-orgasmic or even without an orgasm can go all night!  So he is sits in the corner and tries to get his manhood action ready. In the mean time two young studs might entertain his wife. Maybe both of them are younger and better then he is. It might hurt his feelings because he may not be ready to go. Well this is part of the package.... he has to learn to deal with this. What the lady can do about it? She should discuss with him about his feelings. Open communication is very important. 

Ladies, with out you there would be no swinging at all. Imagine a swinger's club or swinger house party without women....  You are, as a woman, the engine for all the swinging community. Sex is normal, and sex is good. Once you find your first sex partner and you experiencing a journey together with your husband you will understand why is important and why is good the sexual freedom. 

Once you understand the above, you will find even faster your second sex partner.

Ladies please remember,  usually the man comes up with the swinging idea but it is the woman, who has to say the final word. And if once you said yes, then enjoy it. So do not hesitate, you have only one life enjoy it as much as possible!

How should you dress to a party or to a swingers club if you are a woman? 

Lots of women think that, swinger men want their partner naked. Yes, maybe it is true, but wearing something sexy  can turn them on even more. The little something is much more sexier, than nothing plus it might turn the males fantasy on about what is underneath. Wear clothes that are revealing, but not difficult to remove. You can make it very simple, wear something tight and unbutton 1 or  2 extra buttons on your blouse. Or cut a hole in the front of your bra and wear an almost transparent blouse. If you think this too much for the beginning, than you should get a dress with a zipper on the front. Then how the time goes by you can slowly unzip your dress - hour to hour - inch by inch. And if you think this is not enough, then you might remove your bra or panties and with the zipper give the guys hints, you might not have underwear on....  

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About the shoes 

The higher the heel, the better the shoes.  With high heel shoes your legs will look longer. You definitely should dress for the audience. If you are worried about some of your body parts, cover them. Dressing for a swinger party should be fun, you should not worry about your body. Men will focus on what is the best of your body and they don't care about the rest of your body. All swinger men love high heels, stockings and garter belts. Or you can wear something tight and short with a tight tank top with out a bra. 

The possibilities are endless.  You have to remember to only one thing. You wear what ever will make you feel comfortable, but you have to send the message - you are looking for sex.

What is the best women outfit for a swingers party?

The best outfit for a woman is a short black skirt,  sheer black stockings with a garter belt. Of course high heels. A white silk shirt with a camisole underneath. No bra and no underwear. 

If you decide to wear a bra, it should not be a back-hook type and if you decide to wear underwear, it should not be white. The idea is to wear clothes that are easy to remove. Something that come off over your head is not the best  selection. Also, wear stockings rather than panty hose. They are very sexy with garter belt. 

If you still did not find an idea that is good enough for you, why not just wear sexy lingerie underneath your dress and sometime later in the night - if you feel like it just remove your dress.

So you think that, you found that guy....

You think the chemistry is there. You already send him a message with your dress, you are looking for sex. What else you can do?

Well at first you have to maintain  eye contact with him. Look at him and if you catch your eye moisten your lip with your tongue. If he keeps watching you unbutton a button on your blouse. You might touch your breast. If you really want to be aggressive you might put your hand on your genitals for a moment. If he still did not go to you, there is nothing else you can do, but you have to walk over there. Remember, you are in a swingers club or swingers party, so everyone goes there for a same reason. Looking for some kind of adult fun. If he doesn't get your idea, you have to walk to him. Try to walk as sexy as you can, try to move your hip in long smooth strides. 

And you are there. What should you say?  

Something like "Would you like my company"? Or "I never see you here before. Do you come here often?" Try to make your voice seductive. The conversation already started. You should not ask from him question about marital status, girlfriends and kids. These are important facts in swinging, but first you have to turn him on - after you can deal with family related issues. The easiest way to get him into the mood is to call him to dance when the song is slow. On the dance floor you can check out his body. Men are addicted to women's breasts. You should press your breast into his chest. Wrap your arm around him and  try to squeeze his buns. Push your genitals into his genitals. 

By now he should get your message. If he did not or he acts like he did not get anything, he might be impotent and he is looking for guys to entertain his wife or you are not his type and he doesn't want to go any further with you. Then you should thank him for the dance and leave him alone. Best you can do is, try to find somebody else.

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