Adult Sexual GratificationThe Sexual Fulfillment by Joan. Part 2.This work is copyrighted to the author. For related info contact Joan at JJJ3313260 @ AOL.comAt some point, a loving adult couple should AT LEAST venture into some shared voyeurism or exhibitionism. Go together to some place of adult entertainment. Both could dress sexily/handsomely and go out to a bar, dance hall, lounge, etc. somewhere away from home. Dance with others. Enjoy the experience of seeing your spouse in the arms of another or of seeing others relish the sexy appearance of your spouse. Ladies, let a little flesh show! Wear a skirt or dress that is shorter than you normally would wear. Wear a low-cut blouse or sweater. Consider leaving that bra at home. If you want to get kinky, you may even want to leave your panties at home... and not tell your spouse until you are out in public, and his imagination can run wild. Men take your spouse to places you haven't taken her before, a "meat-market" bar, an adult theater, a topless beach, a strip club. Let her know you enjoy watching other guys ogle her lovely, sexy body. Encourage her to let other guys invite her to dance. Give her some space so other guys will step in and express their admiration of her charms. Then both (all) of you can go home and enjoy memories of your "crazy night out." Or, openly (but discretely) engage in some sexual fondling where other adults may observe you. Whether or not you ever physically involve others in your sex life, this kind of shared fun can be a real sexual stimulator for both of you. | |||
When you are out of town, spending a night in a hotel leave the window shades open while you make love. Allow for the possibility that others MAY be watching (even if they aren't). It is a great way to put spirit back into your sexual sharing. When you do this, talk dirty to each other. Believe me IT'S FUN! Invite a masseur to your hotel room to give her a nude massage while he watches and/or participates or a masseuse for a nude massage of him while she watches and/or participates. It doesn't have to end up having that extra person actually having sex with either of you - but it could. Either way, it can be a great turn-on to both (all) of you. Check out the ads in the Personals section of your local newspaper or website like this, to learn about local swingers dances. Get dressed up sexy, and go to one. Going doesn't mean you intend to actually "swap" with anyone. Just enjoy the evening watching the open sexuality of other adults who (you know) will probably end up spending time later that night in bed with someone other than their spouse. Just watching can be a real turn-on. Then again, you might just meet folks you want to get to know better. Even if you don't want to swing, you might meet folks who are active swingers, and decide to spend some time with them at a lounge or restaurant, just getting to know them and asking about their lifestyle. This is still not a commitment to do anything in the swinging scene. You may end up just using the experience as fodder for a wilder sex life between the two of you. Even if you end up going to an on-premise swing club, adult motel or similar adult facility, it doesn't mean either, both or all of you have to get involved in the sexual activity with others. All such facilities have a "NO means NO" policy to protect folks from over-aggressive swingers. I have met numerous couples who go to such places just for the visual and erotic stimulation, and then end up screwing each other, only each other... either at the facility or later back at home. TREATING YOUR SPOUSE TO THE GIFT ON AN EXTRA PARTNERA couple which enjoys genuinely open communication on sexual matters may eventually agree that `under the right circumstances, and with the right person,' one or both of the parties `might' be willing to `try' sex with another person outside the committed relationship. If the person expressing the `maybe' is the person who has been least interested in experiencing another person, that is the person who should experience an extra partner first. When that happens, the other party should consider CREATING a `right circumstance' with a reasonably `right' extra person... as a gift to the other spouse. Often this will involve observing what and who turns that other party on. Is it a friend, a non-friend who is a person of a different race, or a younger or older person. Is he/she most turned-on to others while away from your hometown... at a dance... at the beach? Is it at home in front of the fireplace when a guest is visiting? Once the right setting is determined, and a reasonably right extra person is present, the next thing you need to do is to make sure that clothing is minimized. That is why strip poker is so popular. But, there are numerous other games (such as Truth or Dare, etc.) and excuses for causing clothes to be shed. At the beach, clothing is already minimized. To enable a massage, it is reasonable for clothing to be minimized or removed. Shared hot tub experiences often involve nudity or near-nudity. Take the lead in providing your spouse with intimate touches, kisses, or strokes. Encourage your guest to follow your lead. Then let things progress as everyone's `comfort level' is observed. Somewhere along the way, let the extra him or her know that you welcome sharing your spouse's intimacy with them. Give them a reason to feel comfortable as things develop. Assure your spouse that you welcome watching him/her enjoy the attentions of your guest. As your spouse begins to relax with the situation, whisper into his/her ear that "tonight is a special gift for you to enjoy." Go Back
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