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Sometimes, I can have sex with men with little emotion at all- just pleasure. The emotion is one of appreciation. With other men, I feel a connection.

I am not quite sure what differentiates the men I feel an attachment too and the ones I can just have sex with.

I would like to know if other people feel this way. I wonder too if it is a gender difference. Even if you have a  fuck buddy type relationship, what are the expectations that you have?  I feel it is OK to have no commitment sex, but I feel bad if he does not contact me or email me the day after. So there is alredy some kind of commitment or string…

I can not do NSA- I know it does not exist – because there is always a “string” attached. Sometimes the string disappear as soon the sex is over.

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But what is the difference between a FWB, and a lover or a partner that you want to commit to? Is there love, or emotion?

Do you know why you feel emotion to one person, and lust towards another? Of course, the best thing (to me) would be to have a commitment to some one I loved, and that loved me. To have mutual lust and love toward that person. That is my dream.

I am feeling a little confused. Mostly, I am wondering about the emotion men have about sex. Is there none? Is it easy to fuck a woman and have no feeling afterward?

I can feel that, but mostly it has been when I am with a man (my partner), and can fuck other men as part of our play.

Sorry – it is not a direct question – not just one easy question. Please let me know what you think of anything I wrote! Continue Reading…

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BothCurious4

FWB is sex without any extra problems or baggage. As for your other problem everyone’s emotional makeup is different and that is why there are personal preferences.

Why you feel attached to one and not the other is for a professional to figure out. Continue Reading…

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MelissaB2

I think many people have a strong, sexual desire. I love sex too! One feels wanted and needed, and enjoyed by another, and sexually grateful too!

A connection comes when you may know another more than in a sexual way that you can relate too. Some you don’t, but you love to have sex with them … It called lust! And you understand that you don’t really want anything else with them!

Yes, there’s often a string attached still to those that you feel something for! First, try to understand your arrangement with that person. Then you’ll figure it out, quite easily!

Also, I want Love & Lust with my partner, both ways! If that’s what your truly looking for, then go after it! Continue Reading…

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MySweetBloom

I seem to run into the men who want a relationship. That’s probably because I don’t. Everyone is different.

I would say that women are more likely to want emotion attached to sex. All I need is someone who is intellectually stimulating and physically arousing. I don’t wish to share my life with someone.I just want to enjoy the moments. It’s the rare person who can entice me.

And when I do find someone… I’d love for it to be more than just a time or two. I’ve yet to confuse that with “love”. Continue Reading…

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I have a friend with benefits,  for a while now.  We are friends in the real sense of the word first and foremost. We have some strings as in we care about each other, support each other as friends do. We enjoy just hanging out together as friends do but we are not committed to each other or exclusive. He has his life and I have mine.

I am not the type of person that can have sex with someone just for the purpose of getting off. I have to have some sort of connection to him. Continue Reading…

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oneclassy1

I’ve always been one to seek an ongoing friend with benefits, however with some people, there’s just nothing that clicks,an attraction, desire
that’s strong enough that you want to do it again.

I have grown fond of certain playmates, but I never confuse that fondness with a burning desire to spend 24/7 with them.

It’s understood that our friendship is mostly about sex, but obviously, we have to like each other. Some don’t even want to get “like” involved, just spread ‘em and get off…. Continue Reading…

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Unduplicated1

You ask so many questions here that it’s hard to know where to begin. From my experience, women tend to bond more strongly than men do after fantastic sex because of a hormone called oxytocin (you can “Google” it if you wish). It is not to be confused with the medication, oxycodon. This hormone is more prevalent in females and it causes us to develop strong feelings for men who satisfy us sexually.

Men, on the other hand, possess very little of this hormone, so for many of them, they can have sex with a woman with little or no emotional content.

However, if men didn’t ever feel strongly towards women, there would be no such thing as a close love relationship. Usually, a man will bond with a woman with whom he feels comfortable sexually, emotionally and mentally.

It sounds to me as though NSA & FWB don’t work well for you because of your expectation.

You are deluding yourself into believing you can just have sex with guys and walk away.
And yet, you are upset when they don’t call you the next day, and you also state that you would like a love relationship.

My advice to you is to think long and hard about what you want and to let your profile reflect that. If you continue to accept sex for sex’s sake, don’t think to much, just do it and have fun, however it require a certain amount of steady contact with guys.

There’s nothing wrong with uncommitted relationships, but it sure looks as though they don’t work for you. Don’t settle for less than you want. Keep on looking and don’t sell yourself short. Continue Reading…

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obsequious4u

As you can see here from the responses, everyone’s definitions of FB, FWB, NSA are varied. Don’t put a label on your relationship.

Just let yourself feel the feelings you have, be accepting of them and allow yourself to be happy. Have fun, live for today and hope for better future… Continue Reading…

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Any other ladies run into this? Several times now I have connected with men on here. We email, set up a meet and then I get “Sorry work emergency, or something has come up”. The meet never seems to happen.

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The latest is a guy that I have been chatting with. We were supposed to meet last weekend and yes, something came up. It was all set for this weekend, tonight in fact and he still had not confirmed the meeting place.

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He then sends me a note to say, sorry, emergency with a client and now has to fly to New York to work things out.

Hmmmmmm considering he told me he worked for a University in administration, either
he lied about his job or is lying about this.

Either way, I feel blown off again!!! Is it me or are these guys just players, once they get you hooked, they then blow you off. Is it all about the chase?? Or am I truly that gullible? Continue Reading…

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Iamwman

Some people are just all head games. Believe me, not just males,  a unfortunately a lot of females do the same. They don’t even bother to call you to let you know “something came up” and can’t make it.

Male or female doesn’t matter… some guys are just testing the water… They just want to know what will happen if they leave their present relationship.  Some others just chicken out when the talk is over and time to do something else…

But I think a lady like you, sooner or later will find a guy or even more guys to have some erotic fun with… Continue Reading…

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Unduplicated1

This sort of thing only happened to me once. I actually was emailing a guy for months, and we were finally supposed to meet.

On the very day of the arranged meeting, he called me up and said, “I’m really sorry, but last night I meet a woman on-line whom I consider more attractive than you, so I decided to see her today instead of you.”

There’s nothing like honesty, but there is such a thing as brutal honesty. He could have said he decided to go back with his ex, and it wouldn’t have bothered me. But, the way he canceled our date made me feel horrible.

Then again, it was a good thing I didn’t meet him because he probably wasn’t that attracted to me in the first place.

These kinds of things can happen, and perhaps in your case it’s because your profile says you are separated.

There are some men who are hesitant to become involved with a woman who is separated. I know it’s frustrating but, if it keeps on happening, you need to ask yourself if you are doing something to cause men to back out.

Are you expressing neediness? Do you seem too eager to meet? When you haven’t met someone yet, it’s always best to be enthusiastic, but not overly so. Continue Reading…

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It happens to us guys as well . It happened to me twice in a row by the same girl.

Don’t give up though. I recently hooked up with someone and it was well worth going  through a few duds to find one firecracker… Continue Reading…

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thatgirlpt2

Anybody can bluff their way half way through a game but once asked to show his real hand of cards of who he really is an what they really after, they will either fold or get up an walk away it never fails.

They either have somebody else they are with,   married/attached or too many other men and or women they dealing with, and you are at the bottom of their list.

Just you have to try an toughen up and be more direct an aggressive when talking to somebody. Don’t be afraid to ask certain basic questions and see how they act or answer, if something seems off or funny about them there usually is something wrong or they have so many skeletons in the closet, the door barely closes anymore.

For example ask them what they like and what they don’t… or how do they feel about spending time with a woman, in the bed and beyond the bedroom.

You can ask kinky question is. It is an erotic dating site not a church, so don’t be shy…

You got to remember, to much talk wont help, couple of emails, phone calls or webcaming and action time. If you guys emailing back and fore for weeks… it want work.

Actions always speak louder then words in a email… Continue Reading…

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wildaspirations

A lot of men on here are just chicken.

They chicken out when time comes to face and taste a horny woman’s pussy… Continue Reading…

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hotwitch2

I’ve been momentous interruption…. or canceled a few times, but in my case it might happen for a different reason…

I think it was because they knew I was a hermaphrodite, and got scared… before they wondered how my genital area looks like, than when the time came to show… they chickened out. Continue Reading…

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indiapuss4white

Sometimes shit happens but if it happens more than twice, you will know the guy is an unreliable jackass.

Just move on, its not you hon, sometimes people just have commitments at the wrong time and cant make it. Some other time, they are just chicken… and chicken out from pussy…. Continue Reading…

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youngheart5161

Yep, it happens to most of us..

I had a guy whom I had already had one date with arrange a second date but didn’t show up. Later that night I got a text message from his phone saying it was his mate letting me know he had had an accident.  I asked work or car? He replied work.

Next day said guy text-ed me again, asking can we reschedule? I asked how he was and  was he injured at work?

He said no in a car accident… So yesterday work accident, today car accident. What a fuck… He was a lier, so needless to say he was bullshitting, and didn’t get a second date. Continue Reading…

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nyaribule

Haven’t happened to me yet…. that way, but something similar did happen.

I met with a guy on-line. He live at the other end of US. We IM-d and chat a lot. I would say, based on those chats we would be very good match…

He promised to fly to jkt to meet me, but he never arrived..  Hehehe.. I knew it wont happen… no men is that stupid… to fly 15 hundred miles for a fuck… Even it that fuck would be an all weekend fuck fast… Sometimes just have to get real here. Continue Reading…

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Guess I wasn’t in the right place at the right time…..

But the other problems is I have never tried anal sex but I want to. In fact lately I fantasize about it a lot…

So what does a girl do? Continue Reading…

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indiapuss4white

A 3some must be carefully planned and you must all like each other for it to be able to work out successfully.

Just jumping into bed with anyone isn’t going to work. So take time to know someone and then plan for a 3some.

Anal sex requires a patient lover who will guide you and get your anal cavity ready by using lube, fingers, rimming (tongue) and finally his cock.

Rushing is a big NO – NO. Rushing cause pain, bleeding and you might never try again… Good luck! Continue Reading…

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11term

It seems in life that the things we truly want we find a way o make it happen. If you truly want these things you will maneuver yourself into “the right place at the right time” for either or both situations. Continue Reading…

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outtherelinda

Threesomes don’t usually just happen. You have to plan and organize them and being a woman you shouldn’t have too much of a problem finding guys willing to take part.

If you want anal sex then mention it in your profile along with your desire for a threesomes. Continue Reading…

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Unduplicated1

I’ve had two FMF threesomes since I joined Swingers Couple, but
lately there are no women in my area who are interested in such activities, so part of it has to do with being in the right place at the right time.

However you are looking for MFM threesome, and I think you can find easily two willing men, who will make your erotic fantasy reality…

As far as anal sex goes, many men are interested in it. I enjoy anal myself, as long as
a man isn’t too well-endowed and knows how to insert his penis gently into anus.

As far as finding someone for anal sex, it sounds like a no brainer to me. All you have
to do is ask a man if he’s willing to try it. Continue Reading…

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coaus4u

Pussy first and THEN anal. Cuts down on UTI’s. Once it goes in the ass, it CAN’T go back in the pussy.

Or you can go for double penetration. Have your threesome, one dick in the ass and the other in your pussy. You wont stop to cumming… Continue Reading…

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There is a simple way to solve your problem. At least part of it. The anal and threesome part is easy. Easy to find men for a mfm threesome. All you have to do is go to damn near any bar around closing time, jump up on a table and scream … I need to two guys to fuck me stupid!

I am sure you will get all the volunteers you need. While you are getting fucked stupid by the two guys just have one or both stick it in your ass. There this two of your fantasy solved.

As I was writing the first part of my response, I realized something. The mff threesome also has an easy solution.

There are literally thousands of couples looking for that unicorn for a threesome. Put it in your profile and you will overwhelmed by offers. Continue Reading…

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BarbieJoO

The chances of you find two willing guys, who are experienced and competitive, to make your first threesome is a blast slim and none.

You need list one  experience partner… who have expereince with you, who knows your  body.

Being in a committed relationship and then having an extra guy or a girl to play with… it the way to go.

Our first was a girl we met at a bar who was curious and when she saw us together she figured she’d start a conversation. In our case my husband had been a typically arrogant frat boy and understood how a good threesome experience works.

It may be the #1 male fantasy but in reality, it is a lot of work because you have
to give a lot and understand that you will not necessarily be part of everything.

A  threesome is not about the guy’s… needs and want. Even if it is a MFM it is about what your girl wants or it will never happen again. We have been contacted by girls as young as 20 years old and the oldest men being 53 and we treat them all the same.

We’re old enough to be their parents in some cases but our time with them answers all
their questions and fulfills their curiosities in a safe and clean manner. It is all about them first.

We have been very fortunate in that we have received ongoing referrals from our partners we have been with. Many girls are curious about a 3-some with another girl but are too afraid to ask their usual friends because they fear being judged as a “slut, ” so they find a couple outside their usual peer group.

I think we are a nice couple, because  we get one or two new girls or boys a month along with the playmates we already know. We have also been contacted by married couples whose female half is interested and her husband loves her enough to fulfill her fantasies.

So once again, easy to have a threesomes with two males or two females… if you are start as a couple and looking for a third… Continue Reading…

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How many of you like watching your partner having sex with someone else?

What’s you guys think, or experienced?  What is more arousing for you, what is turn you on more?

Having sex with someone else and knowing your partner, spouse is there and watching you, or watch  your partner while makes out with someone else… Continue Reading…

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Iamwman

Have sex with somebody other then my partner, front of my partner is a lot of fun… But to watch my partner while she makes out with an other man, extremely turns me on…. Continue Reading…

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SnowWhite1953,

I don’t know the answer…  but my situation related to your question… I’m Curious about the wild side too…

The only thing that I’ve ever done, is that I’ve gone to 3 different sex clubs in my area, but we only had sex with each other, while other people watched.

I’ve always been somewhat of an exhibitionist. The man I dated  for 7 years I, had sex everywhere!

I’m just curious…   My situation… my question is about a man that I’m starting a relationship with. He is wanting to see me occasionally with other men, then fuck me, or to have a woman go down on me. He loves to  share me with other men and women, mainly with men. It turns him on…

He doesn’t want to be with anyone else, which is fine with me.

I definitely plan on getting to know him first, very well sexually, before we’d ever bring anyone else in though.

I got slammed by a few people, in my previous post because they wanted to know if he has some erection related problems, or why would he want to watch another man do me, and then he will screw  me?

For those, no he does not have any erection problem. He can can get as hard, as hard is possible… He just loves kinky sex.

What’s your response? You can send me an email if you’d like. Continue Reading…

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Sex is very important in any relationship, but I wouldn’t let mine partner go just because he doesn’t do it for me anymore in the bedroom.

Easy to find a good sex partner, but hard to find a good spouse…

We’ve discussed how to make our relationship work for us, and one of the things is to not listen to general statements people make about “when the sex dies, so does the relationship” etc…

We are still flourishing, growing, evolving… It’s  been a journey for us.

Will we still be together 10 years from now? I hope so, no one knows… But being committed to something takes 2 people who want to make it work, whether they choose to be monogamous or live in a open relationship. Plenty of monogamous relationship fail too. Continue Reading…

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indiapuss4white

I like full participation. Share and share alike is best and I’m speaking as a swinger so not many will agree with my views.

Next week I will meet an Aussie MF couple I know from Adelaide. She has no qualms
about sharing her hubby with me and he has no problems sharing her with me and as both of us are bisexual ladies, he always has a nice evening having what most men can only
fantasize about; MFF threesome with two horny bi females!

Watching is nice for awhile, but sooner or later, feel free to jump in, the more the merrier! Continue Reading…

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RampantBlaze

We have a great open relationship and at different times and moods yes bringing someone else in can be a lot of fun.

For her her desire for me increases massively if she sees me playing with someone else it really turns her on and gets her off later when the other party has left and its just us.

She doesn’t desire the attention for another male but if she did I would be happy for her to go there as she has let me go with other women.

I must admit though I get just as excited as her when I see her with another woman. We talk a lot and share what, who and how we want things and make any of the decisions together as a couple as for what effects one effects the other.

Sex it just sex… we do it just for fun. Continue Reading…

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NoveltySeeker

My husband and I enjoy being with other people, participating is the best part of swinging.

The visuals are a great bonus that adds to the excitement. Continue Reading…

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Unduplicated1

Although I’ve had a few FMF threesomes, I did this for my partner. I can’t say I find interacting with two people or watching two people especially arousing.

If I feel secure enough in a relationship and the other person wants to try this, I wouldn’t say automatically no, but I would have to feel comfortable with the third party in order to interact with him or her. Continue Reading…

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I answer most as long as they meet my cupid preferences. Most of the time I’ll get a response back but then they disappear.

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Do they get cold feet? I’m interested in finding a female for a one time experience
with my male fuckbuddy, it’s a fantasy of his to see two women play in front of him and he may possibly join.

I emailed many women but get no response. Is there really women out there that are willing to try this or am I wasting my time? We are both easygoing, attractive, fun people. Why is this so hard? Continue Reading…

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How many ladies came up with the erotic idea, “Honey let’s go find a extra guy or extra woman!!!” I think not many at all. Even if she wants to spice up her partnership with an extra person… or she want to try sex with an other man… or woman, she will find a way to make her permanent partner to ask her…

See at above, her boyfriend want to make out with two women but she is the one who makes the work… to find the extra woman.

The idea of casual sex with other couple or have a threesome with a single person usually comes from the man. Once they try it and if she likes it than she keeps the couple involved.

However your question was, how to find a woman to MFF threesome. There are a lot of couple here, with bi female and str8 male. Try to contact those from your  neighborhood. Specifying that the men can watch and play with their own partner only… I am sure it will work. Continue Reading…

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Iamwman

I think, traditionally ladies are more closed and shyer then men. Sex is more taboo for ladies then for men. A man don’t hesitate to much to have sex with somebody…. a woman think more, before she opens her legs to anyone.

Therefore women  have less sex partners than man. However not all the men are good in the lovemaking department. Some of them are good sex parter, some of them are OK and a majority of the men are self fish lovers…  Especially if we talking about couples with several years of marriage behind them.

Several years married sex life…  and sex has become routine. So somehow the NSA sex idea comes up… It might be in the form of invitation to a kinky party, or maybe a sex club opened it’s door somewhere close by… Or you run into an erotic dating website, like this, where everyone and canyon looking for casual sex partner…

So does not matter who’s idea it was…. his or hers, and does not matter where at they found the extra fun, in the swingers club or on the Internet, but if once they had penetrative NSA sex with  someone, and that was a good experience, with a good sex partner then there is no way to turn back…

Agree with the above post. The easiest way to go, to contact couples, where is the woman bi. Continue Reading…

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indiapuss4white

Unicorn here, ask me!!! I have met couples for MFF threesomes many times via Swingers Couple. It starts with lunch/dinner and if we all get along fine, we carry on from there.

Mostly, I like a couple that has been together awhile and has a solid relationship with each other. Also, I like to see that both partners are READY for a 3rd party addition and not one partner forcing the other to have a menage a trois!

I met one couple that tried it and failed miserably as the wife was NOT ready for a 3some.

So, my advice to you, write to a bisexual woman who preferably is into NSA sex like me, someone who has done MFF before. Chat with her extensively and explain your situation in detail.

Tell her your expectations and then start with an invite to lunch or dinner so that she can get to know both of you thoroughly, before she makes any decision. Good luck! Continue Reading…

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ccandb

That is the big question. I – We have found that if we meet
find a couple here that we will meet for a meet & greet.

If we both feel comfortable than we can move forward if not, hey no big deal. We have found that there are many women that will meet to only have the women play and then be with their own partner. Continue Reading…

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