Emotions and sex and gender differences… I have always thought I have a strong sexual desire. I love sex, that is why I have profile here. I can easily have sex with different people to satisfy this desire.
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Sometimes, I can have sex with men with little emotion at all- just pleasure. The emotion is one of appreciation. With other men, I feel a connection.
I am not quite sure what differentiates the men I feel an attachment too and the ones I can just have sex with.
I would like to know if other people feel this way. I wonder too if it is a gender difference. Even if you have a fuck buddy type relationship, what are the expectations that you have? I feel it is OK to have no commitment sex, but I feel bad if he does not contact me or email me the day after. So there is alredy some kind of commitment or string…
I can not do NSA– I know it does not exist – because there is always a “string” attached. Sometimes the string disappear as soon the sex is over.
But what is the difference between a FWB, and a lover or a partner that you want to commit to? Is there love, or emotion?
Do you know why you feel emotion to one person, and lust towards another? Of course, the best thing (to me) would be to have a commitment to some one I loved, and that loved me. To have mutual lust and love toward that person. That is my dream.
I am feeling a little confused. Mostly, I am wondering about the emotion men have about sex. Is there none? Is it easy to fuck a woman and have no feeling afterward?
I can feel that, but mostly it has been when I am with a man (my partner), and can fuck other men as part of our play.
Sorry – it is not a direct question – not just one easy question. Please let me know what you think of anything I wrote! Continue Reading…
FWB is sex without any extra problems or baggage. As for your other problem everyone’s emotional makeup is different and that is why there are personal preferences.
Why you feel attached to one and not the other is for a professional to figure out. Continue Reading…
I think many people have a strong, sexual desire. I love sex too! One feels wanted and needed, and enjoyed by another, and sexually grateful too!
A connection comes when you may know another more than in a sexual way that you can relate too. Some you don’t, but you love to have sex with them … It called lust! And you understand that you don’t really want anything else with them!
Yes, there’s often a string attached still to those that you feel something for! First, try to understand your arrangement with that person. Then you’ll figure it out, quite easily!
Also, I want Love & Lust with my partner, both ways! If that’s what your truly looking for, then go after it! Continue Reading…
I seem to run into the men who want a relationship. That’s probably because I don’t. Everyone is different.
I would say that women are more likely to want emotion attached to sex. All I need is someone who is intellectually stimulating and physically arousing. I don’t wish to share my life with someone.I just want to enjoy the moments. It’s the rare person who can entice me.
And when I do find someone… I’d love for it to be more than just a time or two. I’ve yet to confuse that with “love”. Continue Reading…
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I have a friend with benefits, for a while now. We are friends in the real sense of the word first and foremost. We have some strings as in we care about each other, support each other as friends do. We enjoy just hanging out together as friends do but we are not committed to each other or exclusive. He has his life and I have mine.
I am not the type of person that can have sex with someone just for the purpose of getting off. I have to have some sort of connection to him. Continue Reading…
I’ve always been one to seek an ongoing friend with benefits, however with some people, there’s just nothing that clicks,an attraction, desire
that’s strong enough that you want to do it again.
I have grown fond of certain playmates, but I never confuse that fondness with a burning desire to spend 24/7 with them.
It’s understood that our friendship is mostly about sex, but obviously, we have to like each other. Some don’t even want to get “like” involved, just spread ’em and get off…. Continue Reading…
You ask so many questions here that it’s hard to know where to begin. From my experience, women tend to bond more strongly than men do after fantastic sex because of a hormone called oxytocin (you can “Google” it if you wish). It is not to be confused with the medication, oxycodon. This hormone is more prevalent in females and it causes us to develop strong feelings for men who satisfy us sexually.
Men, on the other hand, possess very little of this hormone, so for many of them, they can have sex with a woman with little or no emotional content.
However, if men didn’t ever feel strongly towards women, there would be no such thing as a close love relationship. Usually, a man will bond with a woman with whom he feels comfortable sexually, emotionally and mentally.
It sounds to me as though NSA & FWB don’t work well for you because of your expectation.
You are deluding yourself into believing you can just have sex with guys and walk away.
And yet, you are upset when they don’t call you the next day, and you also state that you would like a love relationship.
My advice to you is to think long and hard about what you want and to let your profile reflect that. If you continue to accept sex for sex’s sake, don’t think to much, just do it and have fun, however it require a certain amount of steady contact with guys.
There’s nothing wrong with uncommitted relationships, but it sure looks as though they don’t work for you. Don’t settle for less than you want. Keep on looking and don’t sell yourself short. Continue Reading…
As you can see here from the responses, everyone’s definitions of FB, FWB, NSA are varied. Don’t put a label on your relationship.
Just let yourself feel the feelings you have, be accepting of them and allow yourself to be happy. Have fun, live for today and hope for better future… Continue Reading…
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