I’m considering anal sex for the first time and I’m wondering if it really is pleasurable.
Are you male or female? Are you considering giving or receiving anal?
Give it or receiving, either way, anal sex is depend on the person. Some find it painful others very pleasurable. If you are going to try it, go slow.
If you are giving it… you don’t just stick your penis in there like you do a vagina. Be sure you use condom.
If you are receiving it… then you need even more lube. It takes lots of play and lube for it to be comfortable/enjoyable for the receiver.
Being at the giving end in anal sex anal feels great. I understand how women may be turned off by the idea completely, and if they are not comfortable with it (because they think it’s gross) you must respect that. If they don’t like it because it hurts, I think they just haven’t been pampered enough to relax and enjoy it. Diplomacy is getting someone to do what you want.
The highest form of diplomacy is getting someone to want what you want, and this apply for sex plays too.
If your partner is new to anal sex, the easiest anal sex position for her will be laying flat on her stomach or her side. If she tries her first time on her hands and knees, or with her butt in the air, there will be more resistance and discomfort for her.
First, make her cum with vaginal penetration or with oral sex. Then, give her a massage to relax her further. Massage her buns. I like to lick around the area to tease her, then rim her.
If you’re not into that, use your fingers to caress her there. Use LOTS of lube. Go very slowly. Don’t ignore the other parts of her anatomy and don’t go jamming things inside until you’ve been warming her up for a long time.
Kiss her and talk to her while you’re massaging her.
You will need to insert fingers and larger items progressively over time: one finger, two, three, anal toy, etc. Finally, your hard penis. You can not perform anal sex with semi hard penis. You can find few anal sex positions with anal sex photos at next. You can see there how anal sex should be done.
If you have sex with the same partner often, you can massage her rectum while she’s experiencing the most intense moments of sex. If she learns to associate the massaging with pleasure, she will start to enjoy ass-play on its own.
If you are patient and persistent, going further and further each time, she may even ask you to use your penis. That’s if you’re with the same partner over an extended period.
Anyway, ask her questions like “do you like this better, or this?”
Listen to what she says.
I think it’s a very good idea to use sex toys on her to keep her other parts feeling good while you play with her ass.
Did I write listen to what she says? She will make noises that might make you think she’s not enjoying herself, so work out a safe-word beforehand so you don’t have to keep asking “are you okay?”
Go slowly. You cannot pound her like she’s a porn star, especially if it’s her first time. Plus, she’ll be squeezing you so tightly, you won’t need too go very quickly.
I like to put my fingers in her mouth while I’m doing it. Don’t be a dick about it though. Be respectful!
And don’t stick the fingers you had up her butt in her mouth or vagina!
Don’t be stupid! Use a condom!
When you finish, you can relax and she can use her muscles to push your penis out. They’re designed to push stuff out of there. If you just pull out, it may be uncomfortable for her.
You have to think about your ass, when you are considering anal sex, because she may want to play with your ass too. She let you in hers, so it’s only fair to reciprocate. It can feel pretty good if she makes sure to keep you erect via other means. If she doesn’t want anything to do with your ass, then don’t press the issue.
There is a web page with anal sex basics. You should read it before try to shovel up your dick into anyone’s ass…
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