Am I The Only Person Who Feels This Way? Unduplicated1
Lately, I get the feeling that, in the sexual arena, competition is the name of the game. I’m an older woman, and I can still fondly recall years in which people were just happy to have mutually satisfying sex.
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True, I was with with my late husband for many years, so my experience in the dating world is a bit. limited. Still, I’ve noticed lately people tend to spend a whole lot of time doing what I call “comparison shopping.”
And, the men I meet just LOVE to talk about their other exploits and how one woman is better in bed than the other. This makes me feel as though I have to give 120 percent to even be in the running!
And, I’ve learned to give 120 percent by osmosis.
In order to remain “marketable” nowadays, a woman has to give outstanding blow jobs. That’s number one.
And, she has to love to swallow. I love to swallow cum, so that’s not a problem. A woman also has to be multi-orgasmic for starters, and, if she can squirt as well, she is far more desirable than your average, multi-orgasmic gal.
Vaginal sex isn’t passe, butt (pun intended) it’s a good thing I really enjoy anal sex, because the men who come back for more are very much into anal sex and anal play.
The guys who only want vaginal sex never came back for more, even though I have a tight pussy.
This, I’m sure, has to do with my age. In other words, if a man can get equally good vaginal sex from a younger gal, he will surely prefer her to me. Perfectly understandable.
Sometimes being into anal sex isn’t enough either. I have to have greater endurance and an interesting anus in order to keep men interested.
And, kink reigns supreme.
The kinkier and the more open I am, the more desirable I become. I’m not trying to
bed everyone on this planet. Having two FWB are enough for me. But, I sometimes REALLY am feeling the heat.
I’m writing this from a woman’s perspective… I’m sure guys feel the heat, too, when it comes to trying to get women. I’ve read stories about women rejecting men because of cock size, endurance, you name it.
Does anyone else besides me feel that it’s a sexually competitive world out there and that it’s necessary to be sexier, kinkier and more open than ever before? Continue Reading…
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I agree with you, but just a little-bit. For sure in our open sexuality world, and on websites like this, sexual competition is exist, but on a different way….
I don’t think any women need to market herself on a website like this. Prostitutes need to marketing their service… Women here just need to be themselves and I am sure guys will line up to get into their undies…
Those erotic action, like blow job, anal sex, etc. are bonus…but not decision makers.
She have to swallow. Well I am disagree… I think women, if they like to wallow, should swallow their hubby’s sperm only… Swallow sperm in casual dating is the greatest STD hazard. Plus I think it is gross.
You wrote it you have two FWB, (friends with benefits). So today you swallow number one sex partners sperm, next time number two’s?
What about if you have a MFM threesome? Do you swallow both guys cum… So then they need to like cream pie, otherwise they would not kiss you after that…
According to your explanation, you are into anal sex, because you enjoy it. So do you enjoy it? Or do you do everything to kep your sex partner… Which one?
Also you wrote it, you need to have an interesting anus in order to keep men interested. How can you have interesting anus? What makes your anus so interesting…? Continue Reading…
I think sexual arena, competition is effects men more then women….
Will my cock be big enough? Can I ,lost long enough? Will I satisfy her? Am I better than her last bloke?
These are some of the questions I, amongst others could ask myself. But I don`t. I just hope my past experiences have taught me enough to please her in what ever form that takes.
From my experience, I think you are over analysing things way too much. One other thing that comes to mind is, do you believe everything men tell you? I`d take somethings with a large grain of salt. Continue Reading…
Sexual competitiveness has always been there. That said, I don’t agree that all men would look at your list of “musts” and agree.
Is a great blowjob a wonderful thing?
Absolutely, but it in no way is the deciding factor for me.
Is anal sex enjoyable? Only if both parties are into it and honestly, lots of guys don’t really care about it.
Kink is defined differently by all, unless one is holding a whip, then their opinion might carry a little more weight.
Trying to meet the criteria of everyone else is just going to drive you crazy and in doing so, you lose part of yourself. I’ve said this before Dup, you might just need to find a bigger playground to play in. Continue Reading…
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Yes, but part of that is that we are older and wiser – 16 year olds are still pretty clueless. The internet has certainly opened things up quite a bit.
Still, I think we each have our own strengths and weaknesses, and when we meet someone with whom we “click”, the competition ceases to matter.
My single vanilla male friends also complain about women talking about other men, so it’s not gender-specific.
I do the compare and contrast as much as the men, but in the end, the men in my life are all about character.
So yes, sexual competition is pretty serious these days, but there’s no law that says sexual competition is only about sexual activity.
As far as I am concerned, most men (and most women) fall within the middle of the bell curve of sexuality, and it’s really hard to be an extreme outlier there.
I give the men in my life a rocking good time and solid support outside the bedroom, and they seem to appreciate that. Back to what is important to each of us – and for me it’s all about character. Continue Reading…
The only competitive aspect we see is the “age” thing, when we don’t have an age visible to everywhere.
We get lots of email but as soon as we put our age up we suddenly become unattractive!!! It looks as though age (younger is better) has become a conquest
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“People like that sometimes THRIVE ON making women feel inadequate by giving graphic descriptions of their encounters (past and present) with other women” – that has nothing to with age, beyond that they should have outgrown that type of behaviour by the end of high school.
That’s up there with putting worms in a girl’s hair to get her attention.
There are some good advice here – maybe it’s time to change your standards. Or heck, next time he starts, just point out that the last guy you were with stayed hard for 6 straight hours, or ate pussy really well, or gave you the most amazing hand job, or dare I say it… had a thicker dick.
By the way; I don’t do anal, despite numerous requests. It’s never been a deal breaker – they just stop asking after a while. Continue Reading…
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